Im 22 now and All this really formed who I am today. I got so much shit for it, but I couldn't leave it behind because I love it and especially BTS just too much. From 14-17 I had a bad time, but kpop cheered me up and helped me over come it. When I started liking kpop I was also in a very dark place mentally, the darkest in my short life so far. Once I unfollowed all kpop related insta accounts and tried to seperate my "real life" and my "fan life". I had many phases where I was embarrassed and tried hiding it. A few months ago I talked with a school friend and she confirmed to me that people Did in fact talked badly about me whenever I had a very kpopy day. Im not even asian, but I had to deal with so much racism, its crazy and many people didn't even realized they were being assholes. I got a lot of shit thrown at my head from people who simply didn't knew what it is. I was also deep in puperty which ofc didn't helped and made everyone act even weirder. When I started liking Kpop I was the only one (i knew) in my peers, in my glass, in my school, in my whole city who liked it. I can TOTALLY understand everyone who feels thar way. It sucks that it's an issue even as an adult, and that people who are well over 20 and even 30 can't deal with their peers liking what they like. Really drove home the fact that if somebody has a problem with me liking K-pop, I probably shouldn't trouble myself with being friends with them. Since then I've been pretty loud about liking K-pop, and it's been nice to see that the rest of my circle are either neutral or positive about it. Long story short, we're not friends anymore. It also made me realize that she'd had the same dismissive attitude over a lot of other things, too, and I had overlooked it over the fear of losing a good friend. Sure, she then apologized, but it kinda dawned on me that I'd rather not be friends with someone who looks down on me and the things I enjoy. Unlike a very good friend of mine, who, upon finding out that I like K-pop, said in very clear terms that my taste in music is weird and embarrassing. Pretty good sport for someone who does not like K-pop at all. BUT he's still supportive, buys me K-pop stuff and even traveled to another country with me to go to my ult group's concert. He finds the music mostly annoying, doesn't get what I see in my ults, and is generally uninterested in the topic. When I started stanning my ult group, I only ever talked about K-pop to my boyfriend. You're allowed to like any type of music, and you don't have to accept anyone giving you a hard time over it. That said, if you enjoy K-pop, don't let other people turn you away from it. I was an emo kid growing up so I've been around the block before, and even now, at 33 it fucking hurts to have someone - especially a friend or family member - shit on your interests. It's incredible how nasty people can be over somebody else's music taste, and it's hard having to listen to people talking shit about something you love. I totally get why fans would be ashamed, or at least careful about showing their interest in K-pop.
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